4th Step | My Most Monstrous Moments: Max & I | Summer 2019-Winter 2020
Category Details / Examples Core Pattern / Defect Attachment before knowledge: emotionally investing before understanding partner’s interests, needs, or compatibility. Confusion between personal resentments and relationship reality, projecting past trauma onto current dynamics. Lack of sustained interest in partner’s inner life or hobbies, despite being affectionate. Seeking emotional comfort and distraction over authentic engagement (shopping,…
Narcissistic Anti-virus: Stop Projecting Your Inner Goodness on the World
I have spent an interesting couple of months being entangled in three different relationships/dynamics with men who exhibited highly narcissistic tendencies. It has been painful. And scary. I have been forced to confront the following. To admit being a victim of narcissistic abuse means admitting that human nature really might not be all that “good…
CODA Step Prayers
This post contains a Google doc with prayers which accompany each one of the 12-steps of Co-dependents Anonymous.
Broken Hearts Disorder the Mind – The Sickness of “Mental Health”
A broken heart will disorder the mind, but in our society we attempt to order, suppress, contain the heart by means of psychological and psychiatric control which will always be desperately ineffective for a broken heart. One who is cut off from a broken heart will have a mind which endlessly circles *around* the very…
4th Step Narrative
Grad School: A Near Miss Shot at the Sun Dr Belgrade was my most favorite professor I ever had and I met him when I started my MA program at USF in 2022. I clicked with him in ways I never had with any other teacher — that was in part because I myself was…
4th Step | Fall from Grace: Rehab | Summer 2022
Assets / Virtues / Strengths Event / Relationship Appreciations / Positive Feelings Character Asset / Strength Handling Blythe’s dominance in class gracefully Satisfaction in managing attention, maintaining composure Emotional maturity, self-restraint, ability to share attention Navigating seating chart and front-of-class placement Pride in constructive engagement Grace under social pressure, relational intelligence Moment of connection with…
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